tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post4259212230840333065..comments2023-10-16T09:13:31.747-06:00Comments on A New Light, A New Life: In HidingRoberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05263600663176848466noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-61025858816162517282008-07-10T23:30:00.000-06:002008-07-10T23:30:00.000-06:00Good luck with it; good relationships with parents...Good luck with it; good relationships with parents are rough to maneuver.Matthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03156523925956642311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-40184449160924863992008-07-10T09:37:00.000-06:002008-07-10T09:37:00.000-06:00I've decided that at this point in my life, my par...I've decided that at this point in my life, my parents will go to their grave never suspecting my being gay. And that's okay. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for commenting on my blog. And along with Abe, I extend my welcome to the queerosphere and look forward to learning from your experiences.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-85518801937898787692008-07-07T19:20:00.000-06:002008-07-07T19:20:00.000-06:00Yikes, your story and outlook made me feel very sa...Yikes, your story and outlook made me feel very sad. You know, my parents don't know, but for me it has not been an issue. However, for you, it seems like it definitely needs to be resolved. Remember, sometimes our greatest fear is ourselves...realizing that you would have even more to live up to in your parents eyes! I will leave you with a quote from Harry Potter. "Dangerous times lie ahead, and soon we must make the choice between that which is right, and that which is easy!"<BR/>Pray my friend, that is the best advice I can give. Praying about whom to tell has been one of the best things in my life. Remember, always tell those whom you think will be able to help you. I am sure your parents would be willing. And your father has dealt with it before in his calling. Oh, and if you think that people where you come from don't deal with it, remember, that is where you come from!<BR/>Sorry, too much advice for one day.Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11365305712845486680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-87933523995459033542008-07-01T18:55:00.000-06:002008-07-01T18:55:00.000-06:00hey man what kind of bike do you have? I went on ...hey man what kind of bike do you have? I went on a 915 mile trip to the north rim of the grand canyon a week ago... I have a 650 kawasaki versys its pretty much an endro type bike... if you want we should go somewhere some time... have you ever been to the bonniville salt flats by wendover? let me know... take it easy...Cadencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14678644975979787364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-89223277962981472222008-06-30T10:12:00.000-06:002008-06-30T10:12:00.000-06:00You know... Its been really difficult telling my p...You know... Its been really difficult telling my parents about my SGA. Sometimes it feels awkward and the first two weeks were wild, but you know, I have never once felt like their "gay son." Parents love us and "son" is the only label that they are really capable of seeing. Also, coming out to your parents doesn't mean that your cousins need to know. And, have you ever thought that this knowledge might help them with their worrying? You admit they know something is wrong. It might be nice to know what it is. I am sure they are a little suspicious its something big, especially with what you've hidden from them in the past !) Your parents might be freaked out about you but unable to ask. Now thats all just speculation to help you think, not advice... but, my bit of advice would be re-think telling your parents. From someone who has met your parents, they deserve, and have earned the right to hear the truth from you. And they will handle it well... in time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-2997824122846770782008-06-30T09:14:00.000-06:002008-06-30T09:14:00.000-06:00Abelard Enigma - For sure I don't mind. Thank you ...Abelard Enigma - For sure I don't mind. Thank you for your comment. Meeting new-to-me mohos and reading their posts, whether they show frustration or optimism, is one big thing that helps me to deal with hard times and have a hope and belief for a good future. <BR/><BR/>Sean - Thanks for your thoughts. We should keep on hanging out. You'll have to tell me more about your story and experience in telling your parents. I'd really like to know...<BR/><BR/>I love you guys. Thank you. Here's to good moho blogging.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05263600663176848466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-3437361784231299772008-06-30T08:59:00.000-06:002008-06-30T08:59:00.000-06:00I went through the same situation when I was first...I went through the same situation when I was first coming out too. I only remedied it when I told my parents. As soon as they knew, the whole situation got better. I was more able to be myself around my family and I don't think they think of me as the gay son, but rather as just Sean. I haven't told any of my cousins, but the suffering of those relationships disappeared also. <BR/><BR/>Sure there might be some lies that have to be told to keep the rest of your family in the dark, but in my opinion it's ok to have those lies. This is because it's also important to have a strong relationship with your parents because they can be your greatest support.Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16629678782997797603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4679617498042908272.post-64720153936216221682008-06-30T06:55:00.000-06:002008-06-30T06:55:00.000-06:00I completely understand where you are coming from....I completely understand where you are coming from. My wife knows that I'm gay. At some level I would like others in my life to know - but at the same time the thought terrifies me because, as you point out, our relationship would be forever changed.<BR/><BR/>btw, welcome to the Mormon queerosphere. I've added a link to your blog on my blog, I hope you don't mind.Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.com